lunes, 25 de abril de 2016

Exploring The Word ‘Resilience’ (Day 137)


Within this post I am going to explore the word ‘Resilience’ which was one of the three words that came out after my Kinesiology chat last month.

The truth is that I was not familiar with this word and the first time I heard of it was back in 2009 after a friend broke up with his girlfriend and she mentioned that that word was important in the after-break-up process or something like that.

So, I googled the word and Wikipedia shows something that says ‘psychological resilience’ as the following:

“It’s an individual’s ability to properly adapt to stress and adversity. Stress and adversity can come in the shape of family or relationship problems, health problems, or workplace and financial worries, among others. In other words, resilience is one’s ability to bounce back from a negative experience with ‘competent functioning’. Resilience is not a rare ability; in reality, it is found in the average individual and it can be learned and developed by virtually anyone. Resilience should be considered a process, rather than a trait to be had. It is a process of individuation through structured system with gradual discovery of personal and unique abilities”.

The dictionary says:

Noun

1. The power or ability to return to the original form, position, etc., after being bent, compressed, or stretched; elasticity.

2. Ability to recover readily from illness, depression, adversity, or the like; buoyancy.

Well, the first thing that opens up here is a moment where I was playing with my band last Thursday night and during the first song I broke a string in the middle of it. I continued playing while making sure I expressed myself in the same way, like not chaging my expression because of that ‘negative’ event.

So, the song finished and I said “hey, I broke a string but I will be back soon!”. In that moment I grabbed my guitar case that was on stage and picked up an old string I had there. If you are not familiar with changing strings, it’s a very meticulous process, because you have to pass the string through little holes, like threading a needle, so being in a rush does not help at all.

So, I had the string in my hand and then I breathed. I said to myself “ok, here I am. I have the string, my guitar is here, let’s be gentle”. I didn’t realize that it took me less than a minute to be back on track again and after the show finished, my friends couldn’t believe how fast I did it. But, it wasn’t actually about being ‘fast’. It was about allowing myself to be calmed down. I probably did it fast, but my main goal was to be present here in the moment.

Now – the definitions above also mention that resilience occurs in many fields and situations. And I am able to recognize that I am not accepting and allowing myself to live that resilience unconditionally in every field/situation I have the chance to be in. I mean, that day while being on stage...there were two options; 1) do it or 2) do it. But when resilience has to be applied/lived in relation to finding a new job for instance or starting my own business or planning my future, or making new music, I put that resilience aside.

I realize that there are many things that I can handle through resilience in real time, but when I have to plan/organize it, I am not really efficient. It’s like when the moment is here, I am able to direct it, but I resist to stand up, go out and get it for myself.

Self-Forgiveness

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to remain in ‘stand by’ mode while expecting to be kind of ‘magically’ placed in the moment where I can express myself as resilience, instead of realizing that I can create those moments by myself without having to wait or procrastinate.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not give to myself the opportunity to develop the ability to live resilience as an unconditional expression of myself in every aspect of my life.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be diminished by ‘negative experiences’ that have taken place in my life, instead of realizing and understanding that those are perfect moments where I can breathe, calm myself down and be gentle with myself through approaching what is here in the same way I did with my guitar string the other day.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to disregard those moments where I can put resilience into practical application, because ‘I don’t feel like doing it’, because ‘it does not move me’, because I think ‘it’s not necessary/important’, without realizing that by disregarding those moments = I am disregarding myself as the creator of my reality, therefore, I am not being gentle with myself and I am not taking care of myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself the thought “If you tell me what to do, I will do it. But I do not want to place myself out there” to exist within and as myself, without realizing that in doing so, I am only accepting and allowing myself to be a follower, not a leader that can decide what/where/how to do it in order to really be able to consider what’s the best for me and the best for all through being sure that my creation considers the best for me and the best for all.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that when I have lived resilience in the past, it has always brought a significant meaning in terms of learning something about myself, because through expressing myself as resilience is connected to the process of developing my utmost potential.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to disregard all the potential that exists within myself by not living the word resilience as an unconditional expression of myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use excuses and justifications in order to manipulate myself and then avoid taking responsibility, instead of seeing, realizing and understanding that resilience, in such moments, would be to breathe, calm myself down, and realize that I am resisting self-change, so as to direct myself in that moment through stopping my participation in the mind/thoughts, standing up and creating what’s best for me and best for all.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear living the word resilience as an unconditional expression of myself, because I would have to face those fears that keep me in ‘stand by’ mode, without realizing that I can not accept and allow myself to be diminished by my thoughts/fears/'negative events', because that means that I end up in ‘observer mode’ without standing up and changing myself into my utmost potential as a human being in this physical reality.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to give my power away to the mind by thinking thoughts/fears, instead of seeing, realizing and understanding that I have to stop thinking and start living my utmost potential that I have accepted and allowed to keep asleep within myself.

Self-Corrective Statements

When and as I see myself diminishing myself by thinking thoughts/fears that tell me that I won’t be able to make it, that it’s not important/necessary to stand up and change, I stop and breathe. I see, realize and understand that in such moments I am disregarding all the potential that exists within myself.

I commit myself to stop thinking thoughts/fears and instead, to start living the word resilience slowly but surely as an unconditional expression of myself in all aspects of my life.

I commit myself to walk through the fears/thoughts that keep me stagnant, through start living the word resilience as an unconditional expression of myself, so as to create a reality that is worth living and that considers the best for me and the best for all from the starting point of developing my utmost potential. 

When and as I see myself in ‘stand by’ mode kind of ‘expecting’ something to happen ‘magically’ instead of standing up and creating it by myself, I stop and breathe. I see, realize and understand that I am able to create my reality from within myself to live it outside in my external world, one and equal – and that means addressing every moment from the starting point of doing my best through first breathing, calming myself down, being gentle with myself and realizing that I am here and that I can create what is best for me and best for all.


I commit myself to breathe, calm myself down and realize that I am here when a ‘negative event’ takes place in my world, so as to transcend the thoughts/fears that I accept and allow to keep me in ‘stand by’ mode without giving to myself the opportunity to develop and living my utmost potential through living the word resilience as an unconditional expression of myself in every moment of breath.